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10 Biggest Prewedding Mistakes |
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Even the smartest, most on-top-of-things couple can make mistakes during wedding
planning. Here are the 10 things you should keep an eye on before saying I do.
1. Blowing off your budget.
It costs a lot of money to throw a wedding. Excited
brides start booking vendors and making purchases without having a real budget
and then are shocked to discover they've already spent all of their money (or
parents' money) and don't yet have half the things they need. If you bounce
checks or don't have the money to pay your deposits or make your final payments
on the wedding day, your wedding will not happen. Trust us -- the band is not
going to play all night if you don't pay. Planning a wedding is serious
business. Make a budget and keep track of your expenditures so you won't be
walking naked down the aisle.
2. Messing up the marriage license.
There are so many rules surrounding marriage licenses
that brides are always botching up this one. For instance, if you get your
license 61 days before your wedding in
Pennsylvania, you won't be able to legally marry
on your wedding day because a license is valid there for only 60 days. Go to
obtain your license the day before your wedding, and you may not get it in time
because some states have a three-day waiting period. A common mess-up for those
marrying for a second time is not bringing official divorce papers when you go
to get the certificate.
3. Ordering your wedding gown too late.
If your heart is set on a couture gown, be sure to
order by the six-month mark since your dress will be custom-made and, many
times, made overseas. In addition, most off-the-rack dresses will require
alterations, so make certain that you have enough time to get the gown fitted
properly. You'll want to leave plenty of time for shipping and for your
fittings. The same goes for the bridesmaid dresses.
4. Booking hotel rooms too late.
Brides often leave blocking out hotel rooms for
out-of-town guests until the last minute. If you're marrying during a busy time
and you don't investigate hotel availability in advance, you can end up with
literally not a single room for your guests to stay. Your wedding will go on --
but no one will be able attend. Reserve rooms as early as possible. Begin your
research up to year in advance, and make sure your block is booked at the
eight-month mark. Be sure to include hotel information in your save-the-date
cards or invitations. This doesn't mean you will have to pay for the rooms, you
are just setting them aside -- your guests can put down their credit cards when
they call to book their rooms.
5. Inviting too many guests.
Make sure your guest list and your reception site
capacity match up numbers-wise. You can't invite 400 people assuming only 250
will accept, because if you end up with 300 acceptances, you may have to turn 50
guests away at the door. Most reception sites can't just add 10 more tables --
fire laws limit the maximum number of people allowed in any room at one time.
Analyze your guest list from the get-go, assume 80% will respond yes, and limit
your guest list accordingly.
6. Partaking in last-minute beauty treatments and
crash diets.
Many brides think that scheduling a facial the day
before the wedding will leave their skin looking angelic on their big days.
Thinking of tanning the day before your wedding? Think again: you may end up
with blisters instead of sun-kissed skin. Last-minute beauty treatments can lead
to breakouts, mistakes or, even worse, serious infections. Same goes for crash
dieting in the weeks leading up to the wedding -- after all those gown fittings,
your dress may not fit! Stick to a long-term beauty regimen with lots of rest, a
good diet, and safe over-the-counter beauty products like sunless tanners. Save
the heavy-duty beauty treatments for at least two weeks before the big day or
you could risk ruining all the hard work you've done to make your wedding -- and
your photos -- perfect (never mind putting your health and happiness at risk for
the most important day of your life)!
7. Underpaying invitation postage.
You'd be surprised how many brides just stick a regular
stamp on their invites and drop the whole batch into a mailbox. All but a few
wedding invitations require additional postage -- sometimes up to .55 cents. The
postal service will not take pity on you -- your invites will be returned,
rubber-stamped with that ugly "insufficient postage" sign, and it will take at
least three weeks (never mind the additional $$) to get those invitations back
out the door. Get one invitation weighed -- at the post office -- before
purchasing your stamps. Note: square invitations require additional postage not
only because of the weight but the shape -- so don't try to figure this out by
yourself.
8. Ignoring religious restrictions.
Inappropriate attire for the church or temple, or
skipping the pre-canae, may keep your officiant from marrying you when the big
day comes around. Take your religious restrictions seriously. To avoid any
day-of disasters, be sure to meet with your officiant within one month of
getting engaged. Your house of worship may perform ceremonies only on specific
days, so settle on a date with your clergyman before you start to book vendors
and put down deposits. Be sure to ask him or her about religious rules, such as:
Do you need to complete a pre-cana course? Can you write your own vows? Do you
need to cover your shoulders? Is secular music permitted?
9. Trying to go it alone.
If you are a bride lucky enough to have been
offered help by friends or family members, by all means take it! Too many brides
try to do it all -- and this isn't a good idea. Delegate and use all the
resources that are available to you When people offer to assist -- like your
mom, your future mother-in-law, or your best friend -- find something for them
to do, like researching a vendor or addressing invitations. On that note, it's
important to keep in mind that these volunteers are not hired help -- be sure
that you accept their contributions graciously.
10. Forgetting to focus on what's important.
Keep in mind that you are getting married and starting
a life together, not just planning a wedding. Brides, be good to your
grooms. And grooms, be good to your brides! Some tension between the two of you
(and among members of your family) is inevitable due to the sticky topics that
weddings stir up, but don't ever let things get out of control. Remember why you
decided to take this leap in the first place!